The inter-related threads of Indian society are going through several changes.  These changes are helping to shape out and redefine individual identities and role of families in the marriage. Not only this but also the values for the younger Indians and their consideration for inter-dependency, honour, self-effacement and social structure are leading ways to separation. With the coming generation, the new concept of marriage and divorce is emerging.

  • In India, marriage is still a socio-legal But now the time has come that partners have their own rules for the marriage arrangements. Individuals and couple are coming up with prenuptial agreements before the marriages.
  • Marriage now days is to complete the emotional need between the partners and not just for procreation.
  • Couples have started to build proper communication styles in a marriage. Now the time has come that if the couples find it difficult to get solutions for their problems then they try to get help from a professional. A relationship counsellor or marriage counsellor.
  • Marriage is a lifetime commitment so one should have a choice with whom they would like to spend their entire life instead of being pressured into a lifetime commitment and responsibility like marriage.
  • Generally, people are mistaken by thinking of marriage to be the ultimate only goal for women in India. This regressive thinking stagnates the growth both mentally and emotionally of the woman hence building up remorse, dislike and other emotional
  • Couples have a better understanding that now if they feel it is not working they opt for divorce and do not drag their marriage for the sake of it as they used to do this before.
  • The reasons for such a change may be due to the decreasing number of joint family as there is no familial pressure involved.
  • The whole concept of divorce is changing. People are now approaching it more than before and are aware of their rights and duties.
  • As the women are working towards independence, they marry late and so lesser tolerance for changes in life.
  • The divorce rate is peaking high which may be due to lack of commitment among the individuals, people are not comfortable with the family interference in their marital life, lack of communication between the two or may be due to the rise in women empowerment. Now the women do not have to stay in a bad marriage for financial support and may ask for a separation.
  • A study in India in 2015 has found out that 13 out of 1000 marriages end in divorce. This was not the case 10 years back which was 1 in 1000 cases. But, US studies count averagely to 500 out of 1000 cases end in divorce.
  • Mumbai, Bangalore, Delhi, Kolkata and Lucknow are the cities in India which have the highest divorce. Research finds a drastic increase in the number of divorces in India over certain years. There are 11,667 cases filed for divorce in Mumbai in 2014 (till November 30) from 5,245 cases in 2010. Whereas in Kolkata, the number has reached to 8,347 divorce cases in 2014 (till November 30) from 2,388, a total of 350% increment.
  • During the troubled times, pre/post marriage counselling process is quite helpful. Marriage Counselling work wonders, when couple together sincerely work to repair the relationship/marriage.
  • Sometimes, people visit a Marriage Counsellor and just want their partner to be fixed. In such situations, individual counselling is quite helpful. As a Marriage Counsellor, I try to get them to focus more on their own behaviour. When one person starts changing during individual counselling, it can be a dramatic impact on the marriage. Visiting a counsellor by one person for therapy can be a role model and engage or change in different behaviours to show that something positive is coming out of the therapy.
  • Marriage Counselling may not work or prove worse when one partner is reluctant for therapy and won’t make a single effort to change. Some people do not see therapy as an option. One partner may have already given up on the relationship/marriage, and saving the relationship/marriage at that point can be difficult.
  • In a few cases, Divorce Counseling works by convincing a couple that they are not in a healthy marriage and by giving the couple the encouragement they need to end their marriage. Therefore, Divorce Counselling helps to manage a cooperative and non-destructive divorce.

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