Dr Khanna, as a psychologist, believes that the value and worth others give us are significant, but is it as important as the worth that comes from within? The worth others give a person usually reflects their perception of that person. People may have positive or negative views of us, depending on their relationship with us. But the worth that comes from within? That worth is what keeps us going. It’s the way a person sees themselves with complete honesty. According to psychologist Dr Khanna, people with low self-worth often have low confidence and are always in doubt about themselves.

Respecting ourselves and our boundaries boosts our self-worth. It’s not about being a narcissist and being self-obsessed; it’s about valuing our opinions and loving ourselves the same way we value people who are our loved ones. Psychologist Dr Nisha has observed that people with high self-worth tend to live positive lives, where they don’t get offended by criticism or feel weak just because someone tries to overwhelm them. The opinion they have of themselves matters most to them, so they remain confident. All their insecurities vanish, and they live proudly within boundaries, free. They don’t depend on others for recognition or acknowledgement. They focus on the positives and make life decisions.

A psychologist assists people in improving their self-worth by helping them realise their potential. They teach strategies to accept criticism head-on without fear, which allows a person to improve even more. Criticism is acceptable to a certain extent, but if a person criticises condescendingly, a psychologist will suggest that a person give voice and take a stand for themselves. That’s what a person who valued himself would do.

Letting others’ opinions shape our worth and esteem is unfair to us. Why give others so much power when they can decide our worth? A psychologist would not only help us realise our strengths but also provide reflections for improvement and the courage and resilience to move ahead. This strength will last with us for as long as we exist. Being confident, valuing our words, and keeping our promises are the small things that shape our internal worth. If we were to break any of them, people would naturally think of us as someone who doesn’t keep their word. And that, in turn, would change their perception and judgment of us, thereby changing their perception of themselves. The moment this happens, we realise we’re getting overwhelmed by our own toxic thoughts.

According to leading psychologist Dr Khanna, being perceptive and tracking our own thoughts will give us the wisdom to work on ourselves in a way we’ve never worked on ourselves before. This technique will help us consider every small thing we do that affects our worth. Once we start realising those small mistakes, we will naturally try to improve ourselves. After all, who in the world wouldn’t want to improve their confidence? According to a psychologist at the National Institutes of Health, self-worth impacts overall health, both physical and mental well-being. The perception we have of ourselves can change the very outcomes of our psychological and physical health.

Our belief system plays an essential role in all that we think about ourselves and what we say to ourselves. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “People can only make us feel inferior if we let them.” It’s true, no matter who we are or how strong our mindset is. Self-worth, I call “self” for a reason. What’s the point of having the word “self” if we let others decide our self-worth? A Psychologist helps us understand just that. They make the worth resurface in us that has always been trying to float in the sea of our minds.

Furthermore, they fill us up with positivity that we had buried deep inside. Psychologist Dr Nisha says the impacts not only affect us but also all our relationships. We will see that our relationships are becoming more and more positive just because we chose to believe in ourselves, focusing on what we want, and the party involved, instead of what a third person wants out of the relationship. Everything we gather throughout our lives becomes our value. Not everything others gather for us. So focus on ourselves, focus on our positive thoughts, focus on the opinion we’ve of ourselves, and we will notice that we’re brimming with self-confidence.

People may say, “That’s their way of saying ‘we can’t do it, I can,’ but it’s our choice to let that stop us from achieving anything.” Brushing off others’ opinions about us is a favour we should do for ourselves, not others. Motivate ourselves to be the version we want to be, not the version people want us to be. It’s our life, and only we get to choose what we become.

The only thing that matters is how we nurture our own mindset with positivity, without letting ourselves down by someone who says, “we can’t do it”. So let ourselves be free. Don’t chain ourselves to how others look at us. We always have to think and say positive things about ourselves, and that’s good for our personal growth. People will come and go in our lives, and so will their opinions about us, but the worth that comes from within will always stay with us, no matter where we go or how much we change. That’s the essence of it. That’s how important we are. Be free. Be the person we want to become. Take criticism head-on without hesitation. And while doing all this, be confident in ourselves and trust the choice we’ve made.

Trust the worth we’ve given ourselves. And for any issues related to self-worth, we can visit or book an appointment with leading Psychologist Dr Nisha Khanna at +91-9818211474 in India. She has been running her practice in Delhi and Gurgaon for more than 23 years and has helped thousands of people improve their self-confidence and self-esteem. She taught people to be resilient in life, to handle tough times and stay strong.