Take Counselling Psychologist help to Understand Your Past Better
I believe we all have heard of the series “Dark,” where the past decides the future, and the future chooses the past and the present. Reality isn’t as complicated as that. It just goes one way. The past shapes our present, and our present determines our future. That’s it. According to counselling psychologist Dr Khanna, a person may have unresolved, unsettled traumas from the past, which is why they act a certain way in the present. Be it an aggressive person who has anger issues or a pessimistic person who sees negative in everything and blames him or herself for every wrong thing that happens. It all connects to the home, school, family, relatives, social fabric, and the people who were around us just then.
A study from the University of Rochester found that childhood trauma directly impacts the neurological growth of the child. The quicker they seek help from a counselling psychologist, the better their condition will be later in life. The later they do it, the more off track their development is.
Everyone has their own journey through life. Life experiences shape who we are today. Some stories might be sad, some traumatic, and some butterflies-and-rainbows. But the thing is, perspectives can change, and so can people. The more burdens a person carries from the past, the heavier they will feel, the more agitated, fearful, guilty or anxious they may feel. A counselling psychologist helps a person gradually release these emotional burdens. Making the mind as well as their heart lighter. They let a person keep the heaviness they’ve been carrying all along on the floor. Making them realise that some things belong to the past and are not worth taking forward. Such is life.
Dealing with these past traumas is essential, but what’s more important is the readiness to resolve and face them rather than run from them. A person who faced childhood emotional neglect and bullying, with their unhealed or unprocessed grief, might end up with pent-up emotions that they vent on people who don’t deserve it. If a person faced physical, emotional or sexual violence, then they might walk with those bruises, be it mentally or physically, into their adult life. This trauma is what causes the agitation and suppressed anger, fear, guilt and anxiety, and this is how unresolved trauma looks. A person who has been through this wouldn’t even realise where the aggression is coming from.
A counselling psychologist helps a person understand the past that’s still buried deep within their heart as an adult. They allow a person to accept their past till they come to terms with it. It’s not as scary as it sounds. Accepting ourselves and our past is not as complicated or frightening today as it seems. Once we let that sad, fearful and angry child inside free, our adult version as well be set free from all the pain. We will realise only then the lightness that comes when we put something so heavy free.
A person who has lost their loved ones from a very young age might end up isolating themselves to protect their heart from being hurt again. This way of handling emotions isn’t the best; in fact, that’s not how it works. The more they push people, the more they will end up feeling lonely and hurting themselves.
At the end of the day, everyone needs someone to rely on. The lonelier a person feels, the more detached from life they will become. And trust me, it is not fruitful for our mental health. When a person doesn’t have someone to take care of them, they may start disregarding their own health. Some may think, “Why am I even alive?” A counselling psychologist teaches a person to build the courage to let people back into their hearts. Every human suffers, but making new bonds, thriving, and bouncing back once again is the essence of being human. What’s left of us if not love?.
A counselling psychologist helps people come out of the negativity that they’ve created to convince themselves of the isolation. They first help resolve the grief felt and give the strength to drag all those sad emotions out. Once a person accepts those emotions, others who come into their life will fill the void in their heart and shove themselves in without permission. That is what bonds are. A counselling psychologist helps a person open their heart to this exact part.
As Dr Gabor Mate said, “Children aren’t traumatised because they’re hurt, they are traumatised because they have to go through all of that hurt all alone”. So let there be someone. Be it a friend, a family member or a counselling psychologist. A person won’t realise it in the heat of the moment, but be sure not to regret it later in life when all things come to a good end. When that time comes, people may thank everyone who pulled this through and realise the importance of each person. Each person wants someone to support them. The sooner a person gets such help, the better.
In one of the research articles of the Journal of Science Direct, researchers mentioned that childhood trauma, if not treated promptly, gives rise to anxiety and depression, which is visible in the behavioral pattern of the adult the child has grown into. Everything roots from this. Be it anger issues, hopelessness, isolation, aggression or passiveness. Connecting with a counselling psychologist helps a person resolve past trauma so that they can enjoy their present. The less burden they carry into the future, the better, right?
A trained, experienced counselling psychologist, Dr Nisha Khanna, helps people realise their own worth and learn how to address, heal, and resolve traumas that are impacting their lives today. She helps people build resilience to handle the pressures of daily life by managing their lives well, even when they didn’t have enough support in the past or today. How to accept, acknowledge and move on in life despite a challenging and painful past and make it a strength and walk in life with head high. Connect her at +919818211474
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