This case study is of a young couple named Shreya and Rajat, belonging to a slight state of our country and who came to Delhi with dreams in their eyes. They both happened to join the same training centre of a big corporate giant and got talking. Very soon, they developed a fondness and started seeing each other, entirely on the lines of any Bollywood story.

Shreya, an ambitious and dedicated girl, very soon climbed the ladder of success through her diligence and perseverance, whereas Rajat, the boy, couldn’t do much for himself. Despite the disparity, they kept meeting and going strong. This went on for almost ten years, wherein Rajat often insisted on becoming physical, but Shreya didn’t succumb to the pressure as she wanted to savour this one thing for her D – day, their wedding. Even though they had different socio-economic backgrounds, Shreya’s family agreed to their alliance, and their marriage was fixed. But no sooner did this happen than Rajat visited me. He wanted to call it off but didn’t know how to spill the beans to Shreya as he knew that it would shatter her and didn’t want Shreya to think ill of her.

During the counselling sessions, I asked him to call her too. While talking, I learned that the relationship was continuing only because of the efforts made by Shreya. She was the one who was showering him with gifts, paying for their dinner dates, and trying to keep the relationship going. It was also revealed in one of the Counselling sessions that Rajat was two-timing Shreya, seeing other girls and sleeping with them. It was revealed that they lacked compatibility and were not on the same page on many issues. He wanted to call it quits without Shreya knowing this aspect of his personality. When Shreya learned this brutal truth from a familiar friend, she was pretty heartbroken and shocked.

The parents were also called and apprised of the differences cropping between the two and were advised to stall their wedding plans and give it a pause. All this while Shreya couldn’t accept that Rajat wasn’t interested in marriage as he had been taking an active part in the shopping, was personally overseeing all the preparations and seemed to be looking forward to it with a lot of zest and zeal. She had almost given up on life.

I conducted numerous counselling sessions with her to help her escape her trauma, come to terms with reality and start life afresh. Gradually she regained her lost confidence, started work again and even blocked Rajat’s number, which showed that she had finally moved on. On the other hand, Rajat was simultaneously counselled to address the problem within him, i.e. he lacked focus and the drive to excel. Rajat was also guided to put all his energies into his work and enhance his career. First things first, mantra for a happy, successful life!!

Dr Nisha Khanna as a Relationship Counsellor/Couple Counsellor proffers online, telephonically and face-to-face Counselling Services. If you live in Delhi, India or any other part of the World, you can approach us through any of these mediums. For further details, visit Bye Tense, or call us at +91-9818211474