It is a classic case of infidelity where Couple counselling rebuilds a relationship of a middle-aged woman who was facing massive turmoil in her marriage because of her multiple histories of affairs. Kiara (aged 43) is a homemaker and married to Kiran (45), who is Vice President of a Software Co.; they have a son (aged 17).

During a Couple of Counselling sessions, we learned that she is an attractive woman who prioritizes her beauty and fantasy life rather than her family. The couple faced a significant relationship issue, as claimed by her, due to Kiran’s lack of interest and attention to the family. His professional life was demanding, making him contribute minimum time to his wife. Over time boredom grew between them, which led her to find love and happiness from men outside. Her craze for men increased so much that she dated 6-7 men and had a physical relationship with more than 2! Kiran noted drastic changes in her behaviour; she was addicted to her phone and constantly smirking. She would be out of the house late at night and not attentive to the family. One day their son saw some awful text messages exchanged between her mother and another man n shared the same with his father. Kiran caught her red-handed when she was planning to meet one of her boyfriends and demanded an explanation. After this, they decided to get professional help to identify the real cause for such obnoxious behaviour and if the relationship could be saved.

During the individual session, she broke down and confessed that she had an abusive childhood and was molested at a young age. She also expressed that her parents, especially her mother were rigorous and were not lovable towards her. She grew up in a harsh environment throughout. By the time she reached puberty, she was exposed to many sexual affairs, and throughout her college time, she was in bad company, making it even worse for her to return to everyday life. When we questioned her about multiple affairs, she stated that since she wasn’t being loved and given importance, she got attracted to people, especially men who showered some affection, love & attraction towards her.

In further Couple counselling sessions, we explained to them the root cause of her behaviour and made her realize the significance of self-worth. We advised Kiran about the importance of work-life balance and quality time spent together. We made him understand that all that his wife needed was love. Kiara was given tips on how best she could channel her energy and use her skills to do something productive and what she loves. After three months of Counselling, she is happy with her family and has found a passion for herself. Therefore, through this case study, it is clear that not every case of infidelity is intentional. Most patients have solid emotional issues behind such behaviour, and timely diagnosis can rebuild a relationship.

Dr Nisha Khanna as a Couple Counsellor/Marriage Counsellor, proffers online, telephonically and face-to-face Counselling Services. If you are in Delhi, India or any other part of the World, you can approach us through any of these mediums. For details, visit Bye Tense or call us at +91-9818211474